7 Steps to Rebuilding Trust

Here is a good reminder about trust in relationship: 1.) This can be adopted to trust broken in almost any relationship/friendship. 2.) I would add that a plan for how trust will be rebuilt is important to discuss and a time limit. Earning trust, once broken, can be difficult on both sides; but expectations need to be clear and when met, the one betrayed will sometimes need to make a decision to trust, in spite of how they feel. This can be the hard part—choosing to trust again when we struggle to forget. In couples therapy, this can sometimes be the hardest part.  It’s also important to discuss what else is lost when trust is broken like losing the benefit of the doubt.  If you’re having difficulty in your relationship, I would love to help. Experienced betrayal, or need some help trusting again in your relationships, let us help. Here at Seasons we have several counselors who love working with couples and families including myself. 

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-Maribel Rodriguez, LMHC


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How to be the Least Anxious Person in your Child's Life

Children today are more anxious than ever, it is important as a parent to build your emotional toolkit to help your child through this difficult emotion. It’s important to know what contributes to anxiety, what to look for in your child, and how to respond in a way that will improve the dialogue between you and your child.

 

Characteristics and Contributors

  • Academic perfectionism and fear of failure

  • Increase in bullying, suicidal ideations, addictions, eating disorders, cutting, etc.

  • Too much screen time

  • Too little exercise

  • Helicopter Parenting

 

What to Look Out For

  • Laziness

  • Defiancy

  • Irresponsibility

  • “Who Cares?” Attitude

  • Procrastination

  • Tantrums

 

Anxiety can disguise itself as many things, that’s why it’s so important to keep an eye out for irregular behaviors. As a parent, it is important to recognize that these “undesirable” behaviors are symptoms of anxiety so that you are able to respond appropriately, helpfully, and empathetically. So what can you do?

 

Parent Power Tools, Effective Responses to Anxiety

  • Develop a secure attachment with your child

  • Validate

  • Express Empathy

  • Encourage Mistakes

 

5 Action Steps, An Anxiety Reducing Toolkit

1. Be aware of your child’s emotions

2. Recognize emotions as an opportunity for connection

3. Help your child verbally label emotions

4. Communicate Empathy and Understanding

5. Set Limits and Problem Solve

 

Many of these tools and tips are part of learning how to be an Emotional Coaching parent, learn how to do this as we explore Gottman and other approaches to become the most effective parent for your child.

 

Join us Saturdays at 8:30 AM for our parent group!

The Healing Power of Horses

The mental health field is not unlike a lot of professions today — there is always more to know, so an expert's efforts are best spent learning and growing in specializations about which they're passionate. For me, Equine Assisted Psychotherapy is a combination of two of MY great loves — horses and helping people.

The goal of Equine Assisted Psychotherapy, or EAP, is to provide an experience through structured and natural interaction with horses that not only helps clients learn about themselves and life, but enhances relationship skills and promotes healing from trauma.

The Brain Benefits of Gratitude

Several studies have validated the practice of gratitude as a positive brain-changer. The research confirms that the daily practice of gratitude is good for our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. It can keep us from getting stuck in negative emotions, create a growth mind set, and build resilience during times of struggle. In one study, for example, the brain scans of individuals who practiced only eight weeks of gratitude had a stronger brain structure for social cognition and empathy. It also showed a strengthening in the circuits that process reward. What this says to me is that gratitude creates a virtuous circle of connection to ourselves, our world, and the people in it.  Here are our top five reasons to get your gratitude on.

How The Light Gets In

How The Light Gets In

"The birds they sang at the break of day. Start again I heard them say. Don't dwell on what has passed away or what is yet to be. Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything ... That’s how the light gets in." Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah

Recently I found some inspiration at a lumber yard in Sanford. DIY projects are usually not my thing. But, anything that may inspire hope and healing for clients? I'd even go to the lumber yard for that. 

Taking In The Good

Taking In The Good
“If the mind is like a garden, the 'soil' of your brain is just as fertile for weeds as flowers .... plant seeds of inner strength by repeatedly taking in the good. " Rick Hansen, PhD

I recently bought my first digital camera. A very generous friend, who also happens to be a professional photographer, is helping me out. I'm a typical iPhone point-and-click guy, so we started with the basics. Eventually, we moved beyond the automatic setting and experimented with changes in aperture and shutter speed. I love to learn, and this made me happy .... though most of my photos ended up in the trash bin. But digital photography = unlimited do-overs.

Four Steps to Raising Nice Kids

How many times this past holiday season did you had to say that statement to one or several of your children? Be honest. A new year is a great time to practice kindness within your family system. Not sure how to actually do that? Do not fear. Harvard just released a study sharing several ways to raise nicer kinds (and who doesn’t want that, right?!):

What To Do When Your Kids Are Making You Grey

As a therapist who specializes in children and family therapy, I hear questions from parents on a daily basis about how to effectively calm a child when they are having a tantrum. Well, before I share all my therapy secrets …here is a little science behind what is happening to your child’s brain when they are experiencing a big emotion and displaying a tantrum ...